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Share This Article Facebook18Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships I hang out at coffee shops all the time. When you blog for a living working at home gets boring, and lonely; and the worst thing for a serial dater is loneliness. The time I have spent at coffee shops has given me more than a place to work, however. Coffee shops are prime places to satisfy single men who stop in during their lunch break for a little pick me up (that doesn’t involve alcohol). Plus you know they have a job! Here’s 8 steps to take if you’re the guy trying to speak with that cute bohemian chick sipping her chai tea latte at the corner table in Starbucks. (photo by strawberry-ice-cream) Step 1:  Sit in close proximity to her.ashley madison ads Obviously, if you’re nowhere near her she’s not going to notice you. Pick a place that is near her to give her a subtle hint that you’re interested. Step 2:  Make eye contact. This is where she either smiles, or looks away and pretends to work. But you’ve planted the seed.

If she looks up and makes eye contact with you again you move in for the kill. Step 3:  Ask her what she’s working on. Reading, knitting or make a comment about whatever she’s doing. Everybody likes to talk about themselves and you’re giving her the opportunity to do so. TIP: Whatever you do, DON’T tell her she has pretty eyes! The only guys who ever say that are the ones who have nothing better jingling around in their brain, don’t let that guy be you. Step 4: Let the conversation die. Make sure you have a newspaper to feign interest over. Give yourself five minutes to read about what’s going on in Afghanistan before browsing for an interesting and unique topic that will impress your target. Don’t wait too long or you risk her leaving before you have the chance to reel her in.

Step 5:  speak with the her again. Discuss whatever interesting tidbit of news you’ve just read about. Unless she’s completely unaware, she now knows you’re interested, which is a good thing. Pay attention to her body language. Is she smiling? Or is she politely waiting for a break in the conversation so she can return to her work? If she’s smiling and asking questions you’re golden. If she’s being rude or dismissive just leave, you can always try again later with a girl who’s available. 6. Leave. Tell her you’re going back to work but you’d love to meet up with her again.

Ask for her number and tell her you’ll call her. By reiterating that you will call, you’re leaving her with confidence that will make her feel good and more apt to actually go on a date with you when you do. 7. Wait three days before you call. It’s called the game, and you need to play it. Give her some time to wonder whether or not you’re actually going to call. If you’re new to picking up women you’ll probably need the time to let your excitement cool down anyway. There’s nothing less attractive than an over-eager suitor. 8. Call her. Keep it brief. Ask her how she’s doing, make a joke and set up the date. Movies are always a good first date, or lunch. Making sure you pay for the first date. Yes we’re in the year twenty-ten, however, the fact of the matter is that you probably want to get laid more than she does, so why not invest in a good impression? Life isn’t fair, fair is how you treat other people.

Take that little token of wisdom with you and your date is sure to be moonstruck by your mature, sophisticated demeanor. Easy right? Most things in life are easy, you just have to decide you want to do them. Now go get some coffee, score a date and let us know how it goes. Veronica Reynolds (Vlectronica) is the Community Manager and online dating blogger for WooMe.com, the world’s largest live introductions platform where people meet live in chat sessions via webcam around any shared interest for fun, to hook up, or for pure entertainment. Veronica loves social media and is online a lot; feel free to contact her on Twitter with questions or thoughts. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: For Men, Tips & Advice, Uncategorized Tagged in: advice It just got real folks.

Online I’m a creepy P.O.S. In real life? Well, uh, I’m exactly the same. Meaning what precisely? Meaning I have a knack for creeping women out on a date. Typically this is accomplished by looking intently at their breasts while they tell me about how interesting they are and travelled to a bunch of shitty places I’ve never heard of or even care about.

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This post was sponsored by MyAKA. You can read more about our disclosure here Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook3Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Featured So. Single again, over 40, and wondering how to proceed about it… how do I meet desirable men worthy of dating? Looking for that deep, lasting relationship, ever elusive, always worth seeking. I’m not a prime candidate for meeting men at bars – too much of a lightweight to make good decisions. Most of my hobbies are singular diversions, so joining group isn’t an option.

My career field is dominated by women, which means that my chances of meeting a single man there are practically non-existent. How to proceed, what to do…? Online dating, of course! Allow me to clarify something important here, though. In my distant (and even not-so-distant past) I have been known as a poor ‘chooser’. My friends insist that it’s not so much that I suck at relationships, it’s that I suck at choosing someone with whom to have a relationship! With that thought in mind, and armed with strict guidelines, I head off to the land of online dating. Within seconds of posting my profile, one photo, and the headline ‘Waiting to be discovered’, I had 3 men send me messages. Within the hour, there were ten. Within 24 hours, 21 men had sent me messages. How did I wade through all of my choices? It turned out to be easier than I thought. Here are a few examples: Gentleman #1. Seemed to have some decent potential according to his profile. Once I read his message to me, however, I knew he wasn’t looking for someone to have any type of intellectual conversation with.

His message? “Now I would like to explore you.” – I’m no prude, but I thought to myself… ‘Mr. Christopher Columbus here better get his moral compass straightened out.’ Delete. Gentleman #2. I never even got to his message. His headline read “Average man seeks exceptional lady.” Why on this earth would I settle for that? Delete. Gentleman #3. He published a lovely short little note to me. Laid back, yet polite. I’m thinking this guy has potential… Wow, lives in my city, athletic, looks cute, even my astrological sign (Aries… well, you know?) but then I get down to this very important piece of information. Age: 26 yrs. Uh.

I’m old enough to be his mother. Delete. Gentleman #4. Demographics checked out this time. Note was short, but to the point. I decided to check out what he published about himself in his profile. I almost spat out my vodka when I got to this part: “I am not a sports fan.” This relationship was already doomed. I must have my NFL, NBA, NHL, and MLB. (Even college games are good.) Double Delete! Gentleman #5. Wow. My profile must have made quite an impression on him. I got two messages from him, 25 hours apart. In fact, such a huge impression that it was the exact mass produced message both times!

Bad first impression if he can’t even take the time to check and see if he’s already messaged me. Delete. Gentleman #6. Hm. This could be good, a Fireman! I’m all tingly about the prospect until I read the first line of his bio, and I quote. “Firstly, my iphone appl is on 24/7 so even tho it states i’m online, I’m probably not.” Delete.

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Gentleman #7. This guys photos were so blurry, I couldn’t make out any features. In fact, I’m not even sure it was the same person in all the pictures. Delete. Gentleman #8. This man also sent me two messages. The first one said “so very sexxxxxxxy and hotttt” and also the one I received the following day simply said “ sexxxxxxy fac so hottttttt u are”. His main profile picture was of his chest and his stomach.topadultreview.com

Or maybe it was a picture of a whale. I’m not sure. Delete. Gentleman #9. His headline said “Surfer seeks the never-ending wave…” but he seems to have written the never ending novel in a description of himself. Delete. Gentleman #10. This man’s interests were working out and full-contact martial arts. From his pictures, I believe this meant Sumo Wrestling. Delete. Now we are down to Gentleman #11. The right demographics, photos weren’t too bad.

Interests were a bit off, but at this point I’m tired and willing to overlook… I began to read his bio. It started with this sentence: “Hello lets see about me hmmm, well am funny, successful, fit, loyal, and extremely modest. “ –At this, I choked a little on my vodka. He seems to think very well of himself… and he also doesn’t know thing about grammar or spelling. I skip a few lines until these sentences catch my eye: “I am from the Midwest so I have manners and down on the farm smarts such as; I dont flip off drivers with a gun rack in the back window, and I dont eat yellow snow…” At this point, I choked and coughed on my drink so much my daughter thought she had to do the Heimlich. This statement… was so wrong… on soooo many levels…. DELETE Online dating…maybe another day…. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: For Women, Online Dating Tagged in: Dating, Online Dating, respect Smoochies! Let’s face it; Valentine’s Day is the day that all singletons dread. All around you are happy couples declaring their love for each other with grand gestures and extravagant gifts. You could simply ignore the whole thing and sit on the sofa with a glass of wine and DVD of Bridget Jones’ Diary and pretend the whole day isn’t happening.

After all it’s just another day like any other right? So why bother with Valentine’s Day at all? Well in face it’s probably the best time of year to be single! Many new relationships start on Valentine’s Day and you probably have more chance of meeting someone new at that time of year than any other. For a start more people are in fact looking for a relationship.  Research suggests that sign ups at popular dating websites increase by around 30% in February. Evidence if ever you needed it that people just like you are actively looking for love around Valentine’s Day. So how do you get a date on Valentine’s Day? Make a shortlist – Your best bet is probably to think about people you already know who are single and are potentials suitors. You may have a crush on someone at the office or a friend of a friend. Maybe now’s the time to get to know them a bit better and drop some subtle hints that you’re interested.

Flirt a little – Guys and girls notice someone casually touching their arm when chatting or brushing past them flirtatiously. Exchange glances regularly (without becoming some type of crazy person staring) and be sure to laugh at their jokes. Eventually they’ll pick up on the fact that you’re interested and hopefully ask you out. Be Sexy – Whether you’re male or female you want them to think you’re sexy. This doesn’t mean you should turn up half naked and flaunt yourself in front of them you just need to show that you’re sexy in a classy way. If you’re a women then a little skin doesn’t hurt just don’t go over the top. If you’re a guy then make sure you’re well groomed and well dressed. Get Set Up – If you’re struggling to think of anyone that you’re really interested in the ask your friends to set you up. After all they know you better than anyone and are often well positioned to find you’re a suitable date. Many a relationship started by being set up by friends so don’t rule it out. Join A Dating Site – As mentioned before memberships of dating sites increase by around 30% around Valentine’s Day. In the run up you’re sure to find lots of potential partners online. Online dating has never been more acceptable with more and more people meeting their partners online. Get Together With Friends – Who says you can’t spend Valentine’s Day out with a group of friends? They can be your date right?

Get together for a meal or a few drinks and you never know where it might lead. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships So lately I have been noticing a trend among my single female friends and acquaintances (myself included).  The common complaint is often that men just don’t seem to approach women as much as we would like. Sometimes we can be into a guy, ready and waiting…..but they just don’t seem to get it.  And girls, well we enjoy being chased, plain and simple. In most cases, women want a man that is confident enough in himself to do the approaching. Recently I was at Trader Joes and the guy behind me was flirting with me and making comments like “maybe you can cook me dinner?” I flirted back and we exchanged some stories and cooking tips and I was hoping he would ask for my number….but he never did! This is what perplexes me….. why flirt making comments like that if you have no real interest?

While I may never know the answer to this question, I did decide to do some detective work on why men seem to be shying away from approaching woman in general. I asked real men shopping at a Ralph’s Grocery Store their view on the subject. By the way, who knew SO many attractive men hang out at Ralphs!? Be Approachable! I met Jay (32) in the magazine section and he was happy to offer me up his perspective. He mentioned that “having lots of girlfriends” has really helped him to understand women. He said one main reason a guy may not approach a woman is if she is intimidating in almost any way-too hot, too tall, or too perfect can all apparently threaten or scare some men off. I think this is not the average girl’s problem, but there is weight in his words. Girls need to be approachable. Eye contact and a smile can go a long way. In fact every man I spoke to said eye contact is the KEY. Jay even suggested your gaze “for at least 3-4 seconds” to let a man know you are interested in him. He went on to say that if a guy is NOT into you he will not hold your eye contact (good to know). Last year I actually had a guy friend mention that he noticed that when we would go out I didn’t make eye contact or smile at men.

He told me that I was coming of as cold and stuck up or that guys could also get the vibe that I had a boyfriend. I quickly began to change my behavior and I did visit a difference in men’s reactions towards me. So go on girls-look him in the eye and flash your pearly whites! Where are they Hiding? I also asked men where they would look to meet women. Of course the obvious answer of bars and clubs was at the top of every list. Some of their other answers did surprise me. Yuri (28) listed the Gym and the grocery store…he mentioned that he had even picked up women at the very supermarket we were in. I could tell he had skills at getting chicks by his flirtatious eye contact and the way he was working his Brazilian accent. Yuri also mentioned that when he is out at clubs he will approach a woman if he likes the way she dances…or if she is sending flirty vibes his way on the dance floor. Micah (28 and married) said that when he was single he was more apt to approach a girl if “she was smiling and looked like she was having fun”. He also mentioned that it is less intimidating to approach a woman who is out with group instead of with one or two girlfriends. Half of the men I spoke with said that parties were at the top of their list for meeting ladies. The beach, driving your car, airplanes (one shared with me his adventure of scoring with a chick on a flight to Cancun), restaurants, happy hour and internet dating sites were all also mentioned For some reason I have always had this fantasy that I would meet my dream man out in a public place (running errands)….this is why I refuse to run errands in sweats and a t-shirt. However a few of the men stated that they would never look to meet chicks while they are at the store, bank, etc….because they are in too much of a hurry. John (24) cited his busy schedule.

He said that when he is running errands he has a one track mind to check off his to do list and he is not interested in meeting people while he does it. So I guess i will start dressing like a bum to the store now…. Overall what I learned from my little experiment is that men need to know you are somewhat interested to approach you. Whether it’s some serious eye contact or a friendly smile, this is the sign that gives them the go ahead. They want to approach a girl that is having fun and who seems approachable ( not too serious). And if you are looking to meet a guy my advice to you is to drive to the grocery store (preferably a Ralph’s in Costa Mesa), pick up some whitening toothpaste, go work out at the gym then hit up happy hour at a restaurant, followed by a flight to Cancun where you can hang out at the beach and then hit up the bars and clubs later…maybe you will even get invited to party. Let me know if you’re up for it-Ill come with you! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Tips & Advice Tagged in: advice 3)      I appreciate the strength of a man. I really like it when a strong man holds me, catches me, lifts me. I really like when he lifts things or moves things that are just too heavy for me.

  When he holds things up, or takes care of things that would make me break a sweat and he can lift them with one hand. I really like it when he opens jars, tears open boxes, carries bags, or carries me.  I really like the strength of a man.4)      I appreciate the touch of a man.  I really like it when a man touches me. I love to feel his masculine strength. I really like it when he touches me in a special way, a way that only he and I understand and know that it drives me crazy. I really like it when he touches me in a caring way, when he cups my face and wipes my tears with his thumb. I really like it when he holds me from behind, and I can feel his heat, his sex, the full force of his masculinity.

  i really like him holding my face and kissing me.